Love is a hard thing to describe. But what I can tell you is that TRUE love is sacrificing a portion of yourself. If couples were a little less concerned about “ME” and more concerned with “WE” the divorce rate would come down considerably.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years. And I can honestly say that I have loved ALMOST every minute of it. It’s not because we have a lot of money, or because our children are perfect, or because we don’t have arguments and want to occasionally blow each other’s heads off, or have a perfect marriage by any means. But, we do our best to quickly forgive and MOVE ON.

I love the words my grandma wrote to me just before I got married. She always gives the best advice and her words couldn’t be more perfect…“Isn’t it marvelous to be in love? No emotion in the world can compare with it. I guess that is why love makes the world go round. Take time to enjoy the small things in life because someday you will realize they are the big things. Take time to giggle and laugh. Have a happy life and enjoy every priceless minute for swiftly fly the years.”

Marriage is HARD. The most rewarding things in life never come easy (I wish they would sometimes! Throw me a frickin bone here! ) But if we continue each day to work at it, it will be the greatest contribution we will ever make.

I loved these 10 commandments for husbands and wives given by LeGrand Richards (the items in parenthesis were added). I especially need to work on #4. You could call me nagging Nancy.

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The 10 Commandments for Husbands

  1. Remember that thy wife is thy partner, not thy property.
  2. Do not expect thy wife to be wife and wage earner at the same time. (The key word here being ‘expect.’ If she is also a wage earner, be grateful and supportive.)
  3. Think not that thy business is none of thy wife’s business.
  4. Thou shalt hold thy wife’s love by the same means that thou won it.
  5. Thou shalt make the building of thy home (meaning household and family) thy first business.
  6. Thou shalt co-operate with thy wife in establishing family discipline (for both adults and children).
  7. Thou shalt enter into thy home with cheerfulness.
  8. Thou shalt not let anyone criticize thy wife to thy face and get away with it, neither thy father nor thy mother nor thy brethren nor thy sisters nor any of thy relatives.
  9. Thou shalt not take thy wife for granted.
  10. Remember thy home and keep it holy.

The 10 Commandments for Wives

  1. Honor thine own (femininity) that thy days may be long and happy in the house which thy husband (shares with) thee.
  2. Expect not thy husband to give thee as many luxuries as thy father hath given thee, after (thy father’s) many years of labor and economy.
  3. Forget not the virtue of good humor, for verily, all that a man hath will he give for a woman’s smile.
  4. Thou shalt not nag.
  5. Thou shalt (shower thy love on) thy husband, for verily every man loveth to be fussed over.
  6. Remember that the (familiar and honest) approval of thy husband meaneth more to thy happiness than the side-long glances of strangers.
  7. Forget not the graces of cleanliness and good grooming.
  8. Permit no one to assure thee that thou art having a hard time of it, neither thy mother nor thy sister not thy (single relatives and friends) nor any of thy kinfolk, for the (Lord) will not hold thee guiltless for letting another disparage thy husband.
  9. Keep thy home (and family) with all diligence, for out of it will come the joys of thine old age.
  10. Commit thy ways unto the Lord thy God and thy (husband and) children shall rise up and call thee blessed.

xoxo Ashton